I don’t really understand getting offended about someone’s opinion.
It happens. I get offended by things like when a guy treats me disrespectfully or when I overhear a conversation and I can tell the people having it have really archaic, harmful notions about the inherent worth of different types of people. In both of these situations I have a visceral reaction and think less of the person but shouldn’t I just channel my feelings into moving as far away from the offending parties as possible? What else am I going to do? Solve deep rooted beliefs with a single conversation? Change the over-arching esteem someone holds me in by nagging them? I don’t really care, just get away from me.
Don’t get me wrong, I think engaging with people is important, that’s a big reason this website exists. I want to write about things that I think and people can yell at me about them or tell me why they think differently and, you know, iron sharpens iron and stuff. But when these things happen in passing, it just turns into a philosophic pissing contest. Who knows bigger words? Who can be quicker to tear the other’s argument to shreds without first considering their perspective? Whose dick is bigger?
In the end, it is very difficult for people to change their beliefs. In all honesty, it’s just not going to happen. But people who feel strongly about religion or politics (and therefore are the most likely to become offended) love to talk about these things. Awesome. Have interesting conversations, that’s great. But don’t bring it up if you’re going to get mad at it. Why do you need me to agree with you? Who the fuck am I? I write for a hot pink website that talks about binge drinking and crying over dudes. Don’t you believe that whatever you’re saying is going to be true whether or not some girl agrees with you?
Once I wrote about how I didn’t like a particular style of writing and a bunch of people were like, really worried that I was going to offend people who wrote in that style. It’s a matter of preference. I don’t think it’s cool, obviously you do because you keep doing it. I guess maybe I’m going way out on a philosophy-degree-having limb by assuming people have reasons for thinking what they are doing is worthwhile. If your worldview comes crashing down because I’m like “oh that seems way boring to me because I prefer X” then I don’t know what to tell you. You should surround yourself exclusively with like-minded people I guess. Stop reading the internet maybe, it’s not really helping with your repression.
Full Disclosure: I am from Minnesota so I don’t understand most kinds of conflict except hockey fights.