Because I am the victim. I have all these gross experiences that have happened to me and will probably happen again and it’s something that is a part of my everyday life.
Because I want to view men as an enemy. If men are victim’s too, then who can I point my finger at. If we’re both victims of patriarchy, who can we blame?
Think about prison rape. This is something zero people care about. It’s a joke. But it’s still rape. It’s still awful. And its ubiquitous. Even when I read a book that told me these stats it was really hard to make myself care. “It’s their fault… they’re in prison.” Which is bullshit.
Chris Brown says he was a victim of violence when he was a kid. I had bad things happen to me when I was a kid and it turned into self-harm re: my eating disorder. It took me a long time to figure that out. I think Chris Brown tries less hard than me to figure it out, but still, it seems a little bit like a lottery that he turns his issues outward and I turned mine inward.
If women are victims of patriarchy, men are too.
Why does it feel so annoying to acknowledge that?