Why it Makes Me Mad When Men Talk About Being Sexual Assault Victims

Because I am the victim. I have all these gross experiences that have happened to me and will probably happen again and it’s something that is a part of my everyday life.

Because I want to view men as an enemy. If men are victim’s too, then who can I point my finger at. If we’re both victims of patriarchy, who can we blame?

Think about prison rape. This is something zero people care about. It’s a joke. But it’s still rape. It’s still awful. And its ubiquitous. Even when I read a book that told me these stats it was really hard to make myself care. “It’s their fault… they’re in prison.” Which is bullshit.


Chris Brown says he was a victim of violence when he was a kid. I had bad things happen to me when I was a kid and it turned into self-harm re: my eating disorder. It took me a long time to figure that out. I think Chris Brown tries less hard than me to figure it out, but still, it seems a little bit like a lottery that he turns his issues outward and I turned mine inward.

If women are victims of patriarchy, men are too.

Why does it feel so annoying to acknowledge that?

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  1. gythorg answered: I’m genuinely impressed, I don’t read a lot of inward reflection on tumblr… Keep it up!
  2. dreamingofwonderland18 answered: i also am a victim of sexual abuse, but i dont feel the same way you do. its not every mans fault. it takes alot to come forward about
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    I am a male victim of rape (You demand details? He choked me with one hand, held me down with the other, and fucked me...
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  10. totalynobody answered: good, cus it means we are equal
  11. agoodlaughalongsleep answered: You should read “Bros before Hos: The Guy Code” by Kimmel. It’s not men verses women, but us verses this society that we created.
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  20. sophygurl said: Also, men being raped is still usually about sexism - it’s about using sexual violence to take power away - making the man, metaphorically speaking, into a woman. Which is bad. Because sexism.